10 Reminders for Facing the New Year With a Fibro & Chronic Illness
The holidays come with a lot of stress, especially if you have a chronic illness or autoimmune diseases. We’r asked the dreaded question: “What’s going to be your New Year’s resolution?” It’s tough to answer. Let’s face it: many of us are not going to work out more because being ourselves and living in our bodies is already hard!
With people often giving us weird, judgmental or dirty looks, it’s hard to stay positive and enjoy the holidays to the fullest. So here are a few things to remember during these times (and all the time too!).
1. We’re always so hard on ourselves.
To be “better,” to work harder, to accomplish the thing etc. Let’s take a moment to sit back. Marvel at your life:
At the grief that softened you.
At the heartache that wised you.
At the pain that strengthened you.
Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this!
2. Repeat after me:
I have endured. I have been broken. I have known hardship. I have lost myself. But here I stand, still moving forward. Growing stronger each day. I will never forget the harsh lessons in my life because in some way, it has made me a better person.
3. We need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving.
Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life. You are not in competition with anyone else. Plan to outdo your past, not other people.
4. Stop allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions.
Stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.
5. On that note:
Set some (realistic) goals. Not “resolutions,” just some things you would like to accomplish. Stay quiet about them. Then smash the hell out of them! And clap for yourself because you don’t need approval from anyone else. You are your own badass!
6. Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come.
Remember everything you have faced. All the battles you have won. And all the fears you have overcome.
7. If you don’t let it out, the grief can become a scream trapped inside your soul.
A constant cry in the dark or a sob you can’t release.
So scream, shout and cry the way the sky does with thunder, lightning and rain because it knows that it is being cleansed.
It knows the storm is the only way to release the pain.
8. We all have a little bit of “I want to save the world” in us.
That’s why we’re here on this earth and in this life. I want you to know it’s OK if you only save one person. And it’s OK if that person is you.
9. Note to self:
You have to do this for you. This is for you. This is not about anybody else. Live for you. Honor yourself. And never lose sight of that.
10. If you start to feel like things should have been better this year, remember the mountains and valleys that got you here. They are not accidents and those moments were not in vain. You are not the same. You have grown and you are stillgrowing. You are breathing, and you are living. You are wrapped in endless, boundless grace. And things can get better. There is more to you than what happened yesterday.